we didn't start the fire.

I'm contemplative yet content.
I want sparkling cranberry juice.
Barrie is cold as hell but the company is lovely.

How many people in your life really know you? How many people believe they have you all figured out but make judgements on your life based on these preconceived notions they have about you? So many people freely give us their opinions on our lives even if we don't quite ask them for it. I've come to learn that none of us have the right to judge others and the decisions they make or criticize the plans that they make because of what we perceive their lives to be like. I'm not an open book in the least bit nor do I wear my heart on my sleeve (and yes it was pointed out to me by a friend the other day how cliche that statement is) But what I will never quite get is how people freely voice their opinion on your life yet they really have no idea as to why you are the way you are in the first place. All the meaning in the moment. Beyond that, just chapters in your life....alot to carry and alot to sort through (--- Kurt Halsey). We all get to a place where we think we know what we want, what we need and what we think we need yet people still tell us what they think we need, what we should do and what we want. Majority of the time people voice their opinion as a caring individual but how do they know what is best for another person just because what is best for them in their own lives? I'd like to think that this is done with the best intentions for the most part as I know I am guilty of doing this to people in my life. Someone who has given me some of the best advice I have ever received in my life said to me, "its fine and dandy to have all these differing opinions in your life but at the end of the day its what you want to take from them and what you want to do with them". Do we value of the opinions of the people we "let in", our families opinions, our best friends opinions or the people we chat with on a daily basis? When do we get to a point in our friendships with people when we feel as if they "get us" can paint a pretty accurate description of us? Whose words really matter? I wish I could get there with more people and it is something that I struggle with on a daily basis. To me letting people in is being vulnerable and once you are vulnerable thats when you give someone the chance to see you at your weakest and then they have the ability to use the information that they are now privy to against you. I think it's safe to say I have a pretty skewed opinion on this whole matter. All the people who offer us these opinions how many of them will be there for us? When we deal with said situations that they are voicing their opinion on. If there is one thing I can say I truly learned this year is that at the end of the day we have to just be there for each other, take time to listen and talk and understand, don't judge, don't think that you're the only person in the world who has ever had to deal with such "traumatic events" in your life. That is really one of the only ways we can make it through is just caring for those who truly mean the world to us (it also doesn't hurt to reach out to those who do not mean as much...yet).  What I do know is that those who have been there for me / were there for me and offered me some pretty stellar advice along the way were essential in helping me along. I hope I can be there for you guys as well, I really do enjoy my role as the perpetual listener and I am content with this because I know who i there for me.




I am looking for a great situation, I really hope I find it....I need to find it"
 --- post-secret.





there are a few people in my heart and thoughts this weekend. [rip]